Bachelor/Bachelorette Tips

One of the maid of honor's/best man's major responsibilities is to plan the bachelor/bachelorette party or bridal shower. 

Before handing out the invites, quiz the bride/groom about whom she/he would want to share the night with.  Also obtain suggestions for the degree of formality, activities and attire.

Whether the bride decides to let her hair down and have an outrageous party, host a traditional bridal shower or spend a pampering day at the spa, accomodate those wishes. The same goes with the groom.  He may prefer to go to abaseball game with close buddies or go toa strip club. 

Not all brides/grooms are comfortable with male exotic dancers, so avoid an uncomfortable situation by checking with the bride/groom, and in some cases,  his or her fiance before hiring one. 

Even if a night of drunken debauchery is not your style, you can still let your hair loose by giving the gag gifts or lingerie.  Other mood-lightening activities include trivia games to test the bride's knowledge of the groom's personality.  (Test her knowlegde, then play the groom's prerecorded answers.)  

It is best not to plan the party the night before the wedding.  There is nothing worse than taking photographs on the most important day in one's life looking hungover or tired.  Make transportation arrangements for the entire party, so that no one will be tempted to drive home after a night of drinking.